COLD ROOM

COLD ROOM

You left me alone

In a cold room

You opened the door

and invited me in

I thought Id found a place to finally release my mind

but instead

what happened

was, you suddenly left me behind

Apparently I’d gone down the same track before

you didn’t want to listen any more

on the way out you turned out the light

and closed the door

and so I was left to watch my own thoughts and memories
play out before me on a continuous loop.

projected on the wall

Im so cold

(c) Teresa/Divinia 9th July 2014

This is a poem that deals with the required sensitivity it takes for anybody who is dealing with a friend or loved one who is going through  

challenging life circumstances.  Whether they come to you, or if you offer to listen, and they accept the invitation and share sacred space with you, because they trust you... It takes a considerable amount of understanding, and not to mention time to help a person sift through the many complex, and often conflicting layers of emotions that may surface during any session you offer to have with them.  

While to offer your time is always met with appreciation and is always well meant, to leave an issue unresolved, or to simply disregard what a person is saying as "ive heard this all before" actually does more harm than good, and it very effectively closes the door on any further talks. 

People with challenging thought processes often have trouble switching them off, and to tell a person they have too much time to think, 

or that they over-think things is cold, and once again closes down any further avenues of that person being able to speak truthfully or to continue with any heartfelt honesty.  

What a person so often needs more than advice is patience,  follow-up, and feedback, not a half baked statement, and then left to deal with their thoughts and freshly stirred up emotions alone.  This can often take DAYS, not minutes or hours.

So, be careful when asking about someone, and be prepared to hear things that may challenge you.  That does not mean we should TAKE ON another persons troubles, we just need to keep a much firmer grasp on their hands and help walk them through, if thats what they truly need. 
The most regretful thing a person would ever have to deal with, is that a loved one, whether it be their child or a lover, choses to NOT talk, because they feel unable to share what is so deeply buried in their hearts.  It can get too much for them to do it alone for even one more day, and so therefore, they need to find a way... to make it all go away......